It’s June! My favorite month of the year! Why? It’s my birthday month! This month I’m exploring the art of asking for help. It’s truly an art to figure out the things you NEED then researching places/people to ask for help. You may get rejected, but at least you tried. This is not about begging, this is about strategic moves to improve your life outcomes. It’s scary, but worth it. Continue reading “Hello June: The Art of Asking for Help”
I’m sorry (but not sorry) I haven’t written a new blog post in two weeks. I needed a break. Plus, I’m always telling my Blogger Baes to take breaks, but I never take a break. What kind of advice is that. But I’m back and I got a good topic this week: WEIGHT-LOSS!
I was scared to write this post because I’ve written this type of post about 50 times. It’s the post where I declare I’m gonna get fit (or snatched, steal-yo-daddy sized, skinny!). I’m scared to write this post because I’ve accomplished this goal a couple times and I’ve failed plenty more. I’m scared to start this journey again because I’m scared I’ll fail. But I’m tired of hoping to wake up smaller and more fit. I know I need to try again. I’m worth it.
As an adult, the smallest number I’ve seen on the scale was 297 lbs. Now, I know a couple of y’all edges just flew off because that’s still considered ‘big’. I mean, that’s bigger than some football players. But, the way my body (pear shaped) and my height (6ft tall) works, it looked GOOD. As a plus-sized woman and BLOGGER, I always feel pressure to talk about my weight. Either we should be talking about losing weight or talking about how happy we are to be big. What if you are stuck in the middle: a little bit happy, a little bit scared, and a little bit over-it in general? That’s me.
See, I’ve been a BIG GIRL all my life and I’ve never seen a day where I’ve been considered THIN or SKINNY. Came in this world at almost 10lbs and 21″. I was taller than most classmates AND teachers until high-school; thank God those boys started to grow! Then when I got to college, I actually lost a bunch of weight. I was poor, hungry, and I worked a lot. I came home and my family was so proud of my weight-loss – not much mention about those good grades (more on that later). Then I graduated and got a job: free corporate lunch and spending money. I got big again. Biggest I’d ever been (until now). To my luck, I found an amazing job at the YMCA. That job afforded me free gym membership and access to the internet. I was printing off recipes and working out five times a week, sometimes doing two-a-days. Girl, I was FIT!!!!! I could see two ab muscles!
Then, my grandma died, I started grad school, and I broke up with a long time ‘on again, off again’ boyfriend (This was the base of Jack & Ahlia‘s childhood story). I was stressed and crushed. I gained the weight back. Partly because grad school was so time consuming and I was, yet again, struggling with money. But, wanting to look good at graduation, I snapped back into gym life and lost a nice bit of weight.
Fast forward to now, Yup, I’m big again. I’m 5lbs bigger than I’ve ever been! Whew just typing that gave me the vapors. My clothes fit weird, my face is chunky, and wearing heels makes my knees hurt. In the past three years I’ve gone through a lot: death of a partner, leaving a job, horrendous money issues, loss of friends, and general depression. Still, I’ve taken these photos, wrote this blog, and posed for my life. Seriously, if it wasn’t for the blog and you guys, my readers, I’d be in a PIT of despair.
As the title states, I was scared to start again. Like really. For the most part, I’m a pretty confident girl, but even I can see the surprise on the faces of people who haven’t seen me in a long time. That, “you look nice, but wow you’re much bigger than I thought!” look. I saw it when i went home for Christmas. I saw it when I went to recent fashion event. I’m tired of seeing that face. I’m ready to be comfortable in my body. The only thing that helps is knowing, if I did it before, I can do it again.
I’m turning 40 in June. In my mind I want to take these epically gorgeous 40th Birthday Photos. Now, I know science and math, it’s just April, no way I’ll be at my goal weight by my birthday. But I want to walk into my birthday month feeling strong and consistent. I may be down 20lbs or just 10lbs. Either way, I’ll be back on the wagon and feeling better. I know I can do this!
Are you starting a weight loss, fitness, or health journey? Let me know how you feel about starting again. I’ll share updates on my socials and I may even bring back my YouTube channel! Either way, I’ll keep you posted. I’m not scared anymore!
Oh yeah, I already have my plan. I know what to eat and how to work out. Different plans work for different people. I know you want to leave your miracle plan in the comments but I’m GOOD on that. I’ve consulted my doctor and done my googles.
I’m so excited to have my first feature of 2018 in FabUPlus magazine! Yes! The team at FabUPlus contacted me about their Spring 2018 Issue, ‘Athleisure’ Story. Y’all know I’m the queen of sneakers and dresses! I was more than happy to supply the magazine with a photo in one of my fave looks:
This bomb body con dress & clutch from ASOS (2015) and one of my fave pairs of sneakers, the Airmax 90s are a GREAT example of rocking the ATHLEISURE trend. Seriously, this is my summer uniform and I’m not ashamed. As a matter of fact, let me stock up on more body con dresses for Summer 2018. I’ve already made a commitment to update my sneaker collection, can’t tell me nuthin. Athleisure is all about mixing the glam with the comfy! Can I be the formal representative of this campaign? Because I GET IT!
Anyway, when it comes to #Bloggerlife, this photo is an example of what I posted last week on Blogging While Broke – using photos repeatedly. This photo was taken back in 2015 (maybe 2014). Anyway, I was able to use it again for this story. Get all your money’s worth when hiring a photog. BLOGGER TIP: If the photo is awesome, your readers need to see it at least two times.
So, check out the Spring 2018 Issue of FabUPlus. Denise Mercedes is on the cover and the issue is all about plus-fitness. You can pick up a copy at Barnes & Noble and Books-A-Million!
Hello March and Hello HUSTLE! It’s GO TIME on fabglance.com. It’s the beginning of HUSTLE SEASON! Spring brings warmer weather and more activities. Expect to see me out & about, selling books, getting fit, and prepping for summer! No more time for cozy night of ‘Netflix & Chill’, Cookies & Cozy, or Drinks & Distractions! I got places to go and people to see!
What’s going on with FabGlance in MARCH?
Well, over at Team Fabglance, it’s BOOK SELLING SEASON! I’d like to thank everyone for purchasing a copy of Jack and Ahlia! Sales are going great, but it’s time to KICK IT UP A NOTCH! Make sure to get you ticket for the official book signing event, MARCH 17th, at While Bison Coffee. Tickets are available on Eventbrite and include a copy of the book plus refreshments.
Oh yeah! For the month of MARCH, you can DOWNLOAD your copy of Jack and Ahlia for $0.99! Yup! OR if you buy the paperback ($9.99) on amazon, you get a digital download for FREE. It’s my way of making the book accessible for everyone. Oh yeah, I have a FIVE STAR rating on Amazon. *insert smile emoji*
Oh yeah, it’s FASHION SEASON in Nashville. With Nashville Fashion Week heading up the season, expect to see me at tons of fashion and festive events. You know I’ll take you with me. From art exhibits to movie premieres, expect to see me on the scene. Make sure to follow me on INSTAGRAM for all the details.
In addition to Nashville Fashion Week, I’m excited to be on the creative team for the Elegant Ladies Fashion Show 2018! You know this is one of my favorite events to work with because their show not only spotlights FASHION but dedicated money to scholarship for women going to college. Fashion & education! Yes!
Ok, I’m sure I’m missing out on some stuff. But those are big events in prepping for. Follow me on the socials -> @fabglance EVERYWHERE. Of course I’ll be hitting you with some #BloggerLife posts, some outfit inspo, and motivation. Thanks so much for rocking with me! Let’s impress ourselves this month!
The 2nd annual Nashville Fashion Week Blogger Brunch was amazing! Thank you to the team at Nashville Fashion Week for asking me to co-host this event. I’m always excited to see my blogger baes out and about and for the start of the fashion season in the city. Let talk about what we did and what I wore:
The Blogger Brunch, held at the Thompson Hotel’s L.A. Jackson rooftop restaurant, was a great time to network, take photos, and learn more about what’s gonna happen at Nashville Fashion Week 2018. Seriously, make your way to this boutique hotel, the restuarants are so fly. It’s a bit of fancy right in the middle of the city.
Nashville Fashion Week, 2018, is gonna be pretty freaking amazing, so you better get your tickets soon. The best change is that the event will take place in one place, OZ Arts Nashville. This allows the team and production staff to transform the space into a different vibe, EVERY NIGHT. Also, it makes it easy on attendee: More accessible parking, location recognition, affordable pricing.
Also, I have to mention the increased DIVERSITY in the show. From designers, to models, to marketing, I see NFW really making an effort to include more people of color in the production. We know, black and brown people are underepresented in the fashion industry, so it’s always good to take note when postive changes are being made.
So, what did your girl wear? LISTEN! I had to stunt on them real quick with this embroidered a-line bomber from Eleven60. Y’all this jacket is amazing. I chose to wear it with an ivory body-con dress and sandals. This is the type of item that speaks for itself and needs no help!
Y’all! Get into it! Seriously, I felt like a trendy princess. I loved the length too! Being 6ft tall, I barely get items that are as long as they are on the model. And the embroidery is to die for! So beautiful and so detailed.
Once again, thank to the team at Nashville Fashion Week for inviting me to be a co-host for the annual Blogger Brunch. It was amazing to see all these hardworking & stylish individuals combine our powers for sartorial success and supporting Nashville’s independent fashion creators. We are officially in the mix for fashion season in Nashville. Get ready to see more coverage of Nashville Fashion Week pre-events. Hope to see you at the event!
(feature photo by Leah Harrington)
The awesome team at Lane Bryant reached out to me to attend their Denim Happy Hour at the store in Mt. Juliet, TN. Truthfully, I haven’t shopped at Lane Bryant in a very long time. I love the Cacique bras & panties, but the clothes haven’t been my jam in a long time. However, after last night’s visit, I think I’ll be visiting Lane Bryant a lot more!
Lane Bryant is introducing their new Super Stretch Skinny Ankle with Power Pockets. Saying the name of these jeans is a mouthful, but your jaw will drop after your try them on. Ladies, it’s time to update your jean collection. These jeans feature tummy controlling technology, no sagging or gaping back, and super stretchy denim that shapes to your body. These jeans are comfy, they have slimming technique, and they don’t sag! Promises made and promises kept!
Y’all, I haven’t worn jeans in a while! Partly because I’ve gained some weight and partly because I never find any that don’t sag in the butt and aren’t too tight in the thigh! These jeans hit all the marks. Only thing I hate is that they don’t come in TALL in the store, only online.
Then, the wonderful manager, Lindsey and the staff at the Mt. Juliet store made me feel like a freaking princess! They were so helpful and encouraged me to try on looks I may have never tried. Like, I can go on and on about the staff. They were amazing with everyone who walked in the door and had a great grasp on the inventory.
Visit the Mt. Juliet store today. Also, make sure to try on a pair of their amazing new skinny jeans!! Tell them Fabglance sent you!
I know you see the date and, yes, I am posting this on Valentine’s Day. But, on fabglance.com it’s Jodeci Appreciation Day! About three years ago, I decided that the r&b group Jodeci should get way more love than we give them. I mean, if you were a black teen in the 90’s, did you NOT play ‘Forever My Lady‘ on insane levels? Did you NOT lose your biscuits when Diddy dropped the ‘Come and Talk to Me – Remix‘? And remember when a pregnant T-Boz (from TLC) made a cameo in the ‘Love You 4 Life‘ video? Ok! So, they deserve a day, and Valentine’s Day is the perfect time to show Jodeci some love!
Last year’s #JodeciAppreciationDay song was, ‘My Heart Belongs to You‘. I dedicated it to all my Fab Family! I’m so happy to have readers and supporters who are interested in this #BloggerLife and support my endeavors. This year’s song selection is, ‘Come and Talk to Me’, and it’s dedicated to my crush. Y’all, I have a crush and it’s driving my banana-sandwich!
I’ve been watching you
For so very long
Trying to get my nerve built up to be so strong
I’ve never been very bold when it comes to love. I’ve never been afraid off a job, an idea, or even a clothing selection. But, ooh girl, bring up a love interest and I recoil like a scared turtle. It’s the fear of rejection that gets me! And, I know that we ALL get rejected sometimes, and ‘what God has for you is for you’. But, girl, listen, don’t nobody want to deal with a broken heart like that.
But, my word for the year is ‘courage’, and sooner (rather than later) I will get the nerve to tell ol’boy my feelings. I mean, I’m a catch, I know this. I just have to get over the fear-factor. I could be missing out on the love of my life due to some temporary embarrasment! That would be crazy!
I wish I could grab you
Tell you what it means to me
To see you walking by my way
It really makes my day
This leads to a deeper conversation; what would you do if your weren’t afraid? I know this is a Valentine’s Day post, but it’s a word for everyone. Even those of you in relationships, are you holding back on loving your partner because of fear? You trying to take your situationship to the next level? You thinking about marriage? Or, are you ready to leave? What’s stopping you? Don’t let fear be the reason why you don’t succeed.
My friends, let’s all agree to live boldy! Go and talk to that person you’ve had your eye on. Go for that job you think you can’t get. Take a scary step in your life and watch your life change. Good or bad – you’ll always learn!
Song: ‘Come and Talk To Me‘ – Jodeci
Oh yeah, I’m giving away a free download of my book, Jack and Ahlia, for the next 24hrs! Happy Valentine’s Day Fab Fam!
“The best way to spread Christmas Cheer, is singing loud for all to hear.” – Buddy the Elf
I’m Buddy the Elf, because I’m so hype to go home for Christmas. My WHOLE family will be in town. This is the first time most of us have been in the same city, at the same time, in a long time! It’s a Christmas Miracle! Get ready for snapchats and insta-stories filled with family shenanigans.
Christmas is one of my favorite holidays, so I make sure celebrate with family and friends. This year has been tough, but it’s only made me stronger. No matter how tough the year has been, you must celebrate the fact that you MADE IT! You MADE it! Don’t worry about the bills, our what someone sad about you, or what you lost. Just celebrate the fact that you are stronger because of these challenges.
So, yes, we made it! It’s Christmas! Spread some Christmas cheer! Call a friend you haven’t called in a long time. Give a gift to someone who isn’t expecting it. Buy that plane ticket to surprise your family. Or, you know what, just get some rest. Cheer yourself up by chilling. Any way, have an amazing Holiday Season!
Get ready for 2018! We don’t know what’s in store, but we know we are STRONG and we will make it! Thank you for following Fabglance. I hope I’ve inspired you to be better than you were before you read this post.
Ever look at an item in your closet and think, “I’m over it. This doesn’t fit right. Why is this in my closet?” That’s what I thought when I pulled this Little black bodycon dress from my closet. Then, I mistakenly put it on backward! OMG! How did I not realize this would be better? Sometimes, it take a mistake to point you in the right direction.
OK, this is not a motivational post . . . but for real, making a mistake can mistakenly point you in the right direction. This dress was always iffy to me. I purchased it because of the key-hole in the back. But, due to my lack of boobs and chunky arms, the keyhole always fit weird. Turning it around gave me amazing sex appeal with a stylish edge. See, try another direction, me lead you to the right spot!
Y’all should know how much I love bodycon dresses, so it should be know surprise that I have about 50-11 of them. This one was my least favorite, but now, it’s moved up to the top of the list. Just goes to show that sometimes, you gotta try a little harder to make magic happen. Everything doesn’t come easy, but it will come in due time!
People! This is not a drill! The most stylish woman on TV, Tracee Ellis Ross (Joan from Girlfriends and Bow from blackish) is releasing a HOLIDAY FASHION COLLECTION with JCPenney! Get your coins together, because just like Rihanna’s FENTY BEAUTY collection, all the girls will line up for this!
As I type, Tracee is releasing looks from the upcoming, November 12th, drop. So far we’ve seen four looks. The company and Tracee have delcalred these pieces as affordable and SIZE INCLUSIVE! That’s right kids, from a small to a 3xl, you can have a bit of Tracee’s style in your life!
Tracee’s style is well documented. She’s appeared in all types of magazines and continues to slay the red carpet … and when she’s just going to get coffee. She dresses her body well, mixes hi/lo, vintage, and trends, plus she has curves and isn’t afraid to show them. She’s a perfect collaborator for JCPenney, a company that was once America’s store for home and fashion.
Since she’s working with JCPenney, I’m hoping this won’t sell-out immediately. But it is a holiday capsule collection which means its available for a limited time. November 12th is a month away, prices range from $9-$75. I can’t wait to see how everyone styles their Tracee looks! There’s something for everyone’s style: boho, chic, trendy, and classic. I’m going up for that sparkle dress! Yes honey!