This motivation post should have went out on Monday, but it’s Tuesday and y’all will deal. Plus, y’all love me right? Right! I just wanted to tell you, “Thank You”, for being patient with me while I took a blogging break. Now on to today’s MOTIVATION.
Y’all, I took a break because my life totally changed in less than 48hrs! My new normal is waking up at 4:45am every weekday, turning in reports without error, and being a shining example of adulthood to a teenager. For an ultra chill person like myself, I don’t do well with rigidity. Let me tell you how I’ve spent so many years praying for God to magically fix the weak parts of my life, not knowing THIS situation is what he’d use to do it. Don’t ask for what you aren’t willing to work for. This is what I’m learning.
If you haven’t guessed by my lack of social media presence, return to regular posting schedule (Mon, Wed, Fri, & sometimes the weekend), and nonexistent Youtube updates, I’ve returned to the corporate world. Yes, girl! I took a new job in October (more on that next week). However, back in March, I quit my ‘good government’ job after 10 years. I then took the summer off to create, explore, and build the world of FabGlance. It was mostly fun to be a professional blogger. I kept up the facade that things were POPPIN’ over here. But, I quickly, realized, “Whoa, this is harder than I thought.” and I had to go back to work.
I went back to the 9-to-5 grind, realizing that I had FAILED at quitting. Basically, I was the goal that others strive for: Quit your corporate job and work for yourself. I knew it would be hard to quit my job and go off on my own (No Al B. Sure), but it was much harder than I ever expected. Yeah, I accomplished some of the goals that were sitting on the back-burner for YEARS. However, I was not as EXCEPTIONAL as I SHOULD have been.
When I took the photo above, I had no idea how quickly my life would change. In one month, I started working again, had to help a family member, and took a drastic hit to my bank account. Granted, I knew I’d be taking a new job, but I thought taking on said job would allow me to have a better financial cushion. November came through and said, ‘Naw Girl’. So, with that, I had to deal with abrupt CHANGE!
As a creative freelancer, the talk of money is very sensitive. Creative folks are always discussing our need for money, but very few work toward establishing a set scale that will keep the bills paid. Consider your favorite creative person, and please understand, we don’t do this for free! From filmmakers, to writers & bloggers, to style gurus, creative freelancers, like myself, are the MOST underpaid employees in the workforce. (source). Guys, we need to ask for what we are worth and don’t be afraid to stand our ground.
I’ll be the first to say that I don’t ask for what I’m worth. That’s a BIG problem for me. You can reflect on last week’s MOTIVATION post – not asking for enough money is ANOTHER reason why I’m not as successful. Our society makes it difficult to ask for what your worth because we are so used to getting paid less. Even when I had my corporate job, I was always afraid to ask for a raise, when I KNEW I deserved it. However, if I don’t think I’m worth it, how can I make YOU a believer. Stop letting people book two-hour ‘pick my brain’ sessions for the price of a $5 coffee! You are worth more!
As a blogger and personal stylist, the info I provide isn’t necessary for daily living. You can go about your life NOT knowing the name of Beyonce’s latest bag of choice (It’s a custom Louis Vuitton), what to wear for your 20th Class Reunion (click here) or understand why using proper lighting for your selfies is a big deal. But when you do need that info, from a trusted source, you come to me or one of my stylish peers. You expect that I’ll know exactly what to say. I’m your Google. You need the 10 YEARS of info stored in my brain in order to guide you on your stylish way.
Please, stop thinking a creative’s job is easy or we do this JUST because it’s a hobby. Those who are transitioning from hobby to lifestyle need MONEY to do so. Your stylist friend who helps you dress your family for your Christmas photoshoot deserves to be paid. The photographer that has to carry his gear around town in order to get the best photo deserves to be paid. The friend who is ‘helping’ you plan your wedding, deserves to be paid. The intern who is teaching how to use ‘the Instagram’ deserves to be paid. Even your homegirl, who does hair out of her kitchen, but can slang an amazing weave, deserves to be paid. And, if you don’t feel like that individual deserves to be paid, then you don’t deserve the luxury of their skills.
Since I’m about solutions, and you are about to be a better person, I’ll give you FOUR ways to compensate your favorite creative – in addition to giving them money.
Don’t Ask for the HOOK-UP! – Ask them their established rate before booking. Stop looking for a hook-up all the time. If the person chooses to give you the hook-up, that’s their choice. And even then, give them a tip (15%-20%).
FOLLOW them on Social Media – Most creatives don’t have big budgets for marketing campaigns. Most of the time, we use social media to share our work, new ideas, and sales. We need your follows, likes, and shares! It take 2.7 seconds to click that share/like button and you’ve done a lot more for people you don’t even know.
Spread the Word – Now that you’ve worked with your favorite creative, read her blog & it inspired you, or received the amazing photos from your shoot, it’s time to spread the word. Word of Mouth is the BEST way to support your creative friends. Don’t let those photos in your phone go to waste – show your co-workers & church members. Be the PR that we can’t yet afford.
Donate to the Cause – Feel weary about giving someone cash? Then ask your independent freelance friend what they need to move their business forward. Ask them if they need a finance session with an accountant. Could she need a new lens for her camera? Or something simple, like ink and paper for her printer. Oh, think outside the box . . . FREE babysitting so she can finish that song or edit that video. Think about it.
For my fellow creative freelancers – let’s start knowing our worth and charging extra. For the supporters – thanks in advance for adjusting to our new rates. In the end, we just want to share our passions with you and give you amazing services, from a creative standpoint. Support us and your local creative community!
I’m not successful and I know why! And you’re not successful either, so let’s talk about it. I’ve been a blogger for NINE years, NINE! You’d think, within two years, I should be riding high on that sweet delicious blog money! I should have all the high-dollar collabs, photos popping, getting sent out to amazing destinations, and not giving the sad face to my skeptical bank account. But, in my new quest to get ONE MILLION FOLLOWERS I realized my behaviors have definitely stopped me from being farther in the game than I should be. And, because I want to help you do better in your endeavors, I thought I’d bring you along for the ride. Here’s the FIVE reasons why I’m not successful:
I’ve followed Issa Rae since her humble beginnings on YouTube. Now she’s one of the most sought after writers in Hollywood. The fact that she may have chuckled at my tweet, makes me think of how one small thing can change your whole path. Like, some of my favorite social media influencers and Hollywood celebs have re-tweeted my lil ol tweet. I’m low-key excited. Why?
This week on the #15MinutesofFab Facebook Livestream I’ll be discussing: fashion, blogging, and staying in your lane. I’ve had so many people asking me, “How do you like blogging full-time? How have you found your niche?”
Have you asked yourself these questions? Are you trying to start a style blog? Let’s talk about it! Leave your comments below and join me live on Facebook and Instagram.
Every Monday, 6p CST, I jump on Facebook Live (then on Instagram) to discuss life, style, & blogging with my Fab Family! Tune in every week for a little slice of my life and some advice from an old lady in the game. Lol! I’ll answer your questions every week in a friendly chat. Let’s have fun!
“When you don’t know where to start, just go to a place you miss so much.” – Unknown
It might sound crazy to start a ‘Motivation’ piece with the topic of confusion, but some of my best motivating moments were born when I was most confused. After quitting my job, this summer has been all about confusion. When I thought I was on the right path, the universe sent me several curveballs. Basically, it ain’t that easy.
It felt like I almost needed to start again. Then, I was blessed with this new website design, and my passion for blogging and telling my story was reignited. As the quote above suggests, I needed to go to the place I missed so much. For me, it was the blog. Just telling my story and using my words.
When I started blogging, you didn’t have to have professional photos, know the latest in technology, or fight the machine that is instagram. Interest was organic and people were drawn to the simple story of your life. Whether you told that story through cooking, fashion, making music, or even bird whatching, there was an audience for you. Everyone had a lane.
Often, when I’m asked about starting a blog, people point out the superficial: the free stuff, the photos, and the attention. Listen, it comes. But don’t let the pursuit of those things distract you from telling your story. There has to be a reason that you want to share your life with the world … and it need to be more than a free ticket to Disney Land. Find your lane, help your tribe.
So that’s my suggestions for this week. Think about the place you miss so much (literally or figuratively). Why do you miss it? Why did you leave? How can you center yourself enough to share your story and help others? The motivation you need is found in clearing your path!
Oh snap! It’s my birthday! To tell you the truth, I wasn’t so jazzed about this birthday. Admittedly, quitting my job has been the best and most difficult time in my life. Sometimes I feel like I did the right thing, others times, not so much. However, I talked to a couple friends, prayed, and counted my blessings. Things could be worse, and the aren’t as bad as it seem.
Ler me fix my crown AND my attitude!
So, after my birthday photo shoot, I decided to film a quick video to encourage myself, AND YOU to have FAITH not fear. The biggest thing I struggled with is the fear of getting old and not being as successful as I thought I’d be. But I have to remember, God gives you what you need, when you need it, and when you can handle it. Best believe, I’m blessed, but I can’t wait for more! Check out my video below:
Tell me how you conquer your fears in the comment section. Thanks for the birthday wishes. If you qant to give me a gift, check out my wish list, or donate to my Paypal! Love y’all, thanks for reading!