MY LIFE: Sharing life with Act Like a GRRRL

During my birthday month, I love doing a bit of community service, before getting gifts. That’s why I was excited when the director of Act Like a GRRRL asked me to speak to the students. After our session the ladies even ‘blessed’ me with GODDESS status. What a sweet way I start my birthday week!

The ladies welcomed me into their creative space and allowed me to share my passion for writing and blogging. My goal was to leave the young women feeling confident enough to share their art with the world.

I shared my love of writing, blogging, and fashion, reminding them that you can be good at more than one thing. Don’t be afraid of your greatness, but always use it to help others.

We then participated in a writing prompt, something I do when I have writers block. The prompt I shared was, “Describe your favorite smell”. The ladies journaled for a bit and we shared our entries. I loved the stories the young people shared.

It’s always nice to know that the next generation is in good hands. The team at Act Like A GRRRL encourage creativity and individuality while creating a safe space for girls to learn and express themselves. I was happy to be apart of their summer experience as an official Nashville Author!

Are you a creative who’d like to share your story with the Act Like a GRRRL participants? Click HERE for more info.

#Motivation: Ask for help

In my, ‘Hello June!’, post I wrote about the power of asking for help. Let’s dive a bit deeper. Asking for help can be mighty hard but it can give you maximum results. Not just getting a task done, but letting people into your world.

You’d be amazed at how many people genuinely want to help you – with no strings attached. You’d be amazed at how many people find you quite interesting. You’d be amazed at how many people are cheering for you. But, you’ll never know if you never open your mouth and ask for help.

Now, I know it hard. Believe me, I’m the queen of doing it all by myself. It’s hard for me to trust that someone will do it the way I want it done. But, girl (or guy), you aren’t a one man army, sometimes you need help.

Oh yeah, asking for help doesn’t make people look at you as being weak. Actually, asking for help is one of the strongest things you can do. Asking for help means you’ve come up with an idea that’s SO BOMB, so awesome, and so life changing that you need ‘all hands on deck’ to bring it to life. Yup, something as simple as, “can you help me make these phone calls?” Can be the catalyst to changing someone’s life.

Asking for help is the gateway to success. Don’t be afraid of help. No one can be an island for too long!

What to Wear: Thongs, Briefs, or Boy Shorts

Let’s talk about underwear! Y’all, I’m mad at people wear the WRONG UNDERWEAR at the WRONG TIME! I’m mad at people wearing too small panties, too big panties, and just sad panties. Also, did you KNOW that you are supposed to get new underwear EVERY SIX MONTHS! Yes, girl! Like, throw the daily panties away and start fresh! So let’s talk about the right time, to wear the right panties.

Around the time when Sisqo sung the THE THONG SONG, thong sales just went through the roof. Victoria’s Secret saw such an increase in thong sales, the retailer was brought back to life! Ladies everywhere (all shapes and sizes) decided that they too must be about the business of a thong. I’m not saying you shouldn’t wear a thong I’m saying, you need . Thongs shouldn’t be your ONLY style of underwear you choose, here’s several reasons why: Continue reading “What to Wear: Thongs, Briefs, or Boy Shorts”

MY STYLE: Walking on Sunshine

A friend of mine snapped these photos after my gig on the NMAAM red carpet. I had to post because the look is so fly and this is one of my favorite items in my closet. How about, this is the second time I’ve worn this dress?! Crazy!

“Keep your face to the sunshine and you cannot see a shadow.” – Helen Keller

During this last week in my 30’s (y’all seriously? What!?) I’ve been focusing on staying positive. It’s easy to fall into the trap of negativity when things aren’t going your way.

If you hadn’t noticed the last couple years of my life have been a challenge. But, I’d be dumb to think I’ve not accomplished much. I’ve got two degrees, I write this blog, I’ve won some awards, and I WROTE A WHOLE BOOK! Let me focus on my champion ships instead of my challenges for a moment.

Dress: Styles Boutique, Skirt & Shoes: Torrid

So, the look. Last year, I got this dress from Styles Boutique here in Nashville. I don’t think she has this on sale anymore, BUT I found the exact dress on amazon – BUY HERE.

Remember, I’m 6ft tall, so this dress is super short on me. So I wore this cute skater skirt (that I’ve had FOREVER) to give me a couple more inches. Didn’t want to flash the Celebes at the music gala!

Oh yeah, and I’m like DONE with wearing heels to fancy work events. I’m about to be 40. My face looks young but these knees are OLD! Listen, I gotta keep it real. Keep it real and keep it positive.

How are you staying positive these days?

Let me know in the comments section.

#DIY: I tinted my eyebrows!

If you’ve been following me on Instagram for any amount of time, you’ve heard me complain about my struggle brows! Girl, my brows are so thin, sparse, and struggly that I hate stepping out the house without filling them in. I used to go to a professional brow tech, but now she only specializes in Microblading (Shala is the best brow tech in the south, go to her!) However, I’m on a budget. Microblading isn’t on the menu, so I did the next best thing, brow tinting

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Hello June: The Art of Asking for Help

It’s June! My favorite month of the year! Why? It’s my birthday month! This month I’m exploring the art of asking for help. It’s truly an art to figure out the things you NEED then researching places/people to ask for help. You may get rejected, but at least you tried. This is not about begging, this is about strategic moves to improve your life outcomes. It’s scary, but worth it. Continue reading “Hello June: The Art of Asking for Help”

MY CITY: Louie’s Wine Dive, Nashville, might be your new fave spot!

Louie’s Wine Dive – Nashville, is poised to be your newest after-work hang-out! I love being introduced to new spots in Nashville, and believe me, we have PLENTY of new spots popping up in the city. Last night, the team at Louie’s Wine Dive invited a bunch of influencers to sample their amazing locally-sourced menu as well as their extensive wine collection. Y’all, you are gonna love this spot! If you love wine, you’ll love it even more!

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MY LIFE: One Month Fitness Update

Last month, I restarted my fitness journey. To keep me accountable, I thought I’d share my monthly updates on the blog. Although I started a bit unsure of my journey, I’m happy to say we are on the right track and getting more for everyday! Below, I share details of my first four weeks of fitness.

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#BloggerLife: Are you a blogger, an Influencer, or both?

Blogger vs. Influencer? It’s a discussion that’s become more prevalent as influencer marketing grows. Everyone wants to be popular online. Everyone wants followers. And, everyone wants to work with brands. But which lane is best for you to achieve that goal? In this post I’ll discuss the difference between the Blogger and the Influencer, and which category is best for you!

In my post, Blogging While Broke, I discussed how most bloggers don’t make money from their endeavors. As I continued this #bloggerlife series, I realized, I needed to make a distinction between BLOGGING and being a social media influencer. Because, if you are trying to operate in the wrong lane, you may be wasting your time and losing money.

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Am I a blogger, an influencer, or both?

Before we get into specifics, let me give it to you simple:

An influencer shows you what they know. A blogger teaches you what they know. A reader can leave fulfilled, from both, only if the influencer or blogger does their job effectively. – @fabglance

A Blogger creates online content about a certain niche. Food, fashion, travel, and entertainment are the most popular blog topics. Blogs are updated regularly and usually garner traffic from readers looking for detailed info about a certain topic. A blog is used to introduce readers to a topic through the eyes of a writer. The average blog post should be 400-1000 words. The best blog posts use sourced content with a unique point of view. Blogging is usually more time consuming than creating a social media post. Often, the pay off is slow. However, blogs help build reader trust in whatever topic is being discussed. Blog authors are often revered higher than traditional journalists IF their content is trustworthy. Brands like working with bloggers because posts can stay live and searchable for years giving their product better SEO rates.

An Online Influencer typically creates content for a social media platform. A blogger can be an influencer, and an influencer can have a blog. But the two have some distinctions. Influencers are usually VISUALLY driven, creating content for Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and/or Tumblr. Rarely, do influencers create blog content. If the influencer does have a blog, it’s a place to deposit additional photos, unused from social media content. Influencers give you THEM, their life, and their viewpoint, in less than 300 words (think Kim Kardashian). Influencers usually have a large following that consumes quick content at high rates. Brands like to work with influencers, because their posts have a quicker turnaround and more immediate engagement.

Whew, that was was alot! But it’s important to understand that bloggers and influencers often cross into each other’s territory, which causes confusion for readers and brands. Easily, if you DO NOT operate A BLOG, you are not a blogger, you are an online influencer. If you run and regularly update a blog, in addition to using social media for promotion, you are a blogger. Now, don’t get your panties in a bunch, being ‘just an influencer’ isn’t a bad thing. Neither is being a ‘just a blogger’. And sometimes bloggers become influencers and vice-versa.

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Talking #BLOGGERLIFE with Nashville Blogger, Karla.

I call myself a blogger and a writer because the written word is where I thrive. I love writing stories (I wrote a whole book, Jack and Ahlia) and helping people tell their story (especially working with brands). I’ll never admit to having the best photos, although I’m cute in front of the camera. But writing is my first love. I happen to be a stylish girl who writes really good posts. My social media presence is good, but not perfection.

So, can you be both? Certainly. But if you are, you must rock it in both categories. Update your blog with motivational and informative posts. BE CONSISTENT. Don’t just drop a photo on your website or social media platform and walk away. Give your reader some inside details. Tell us how this photo makes you feel and how we should feel reading your post or viewing your photos. What were you thinking that day and how is this photo important? Brands select bloggers and influencers because of our effect and impact. Can your PHOTO or STORY help sell their product – that’s the real question!

Lastly, expect to get attitude from the old guard – I’m talking about newspapers, magazines, and ‘real’ journalists. Bloggers and influencers are continuously fighting for respect from these organizations. That’s why we must be vigilante in our approach to sharing content. If invited to an event as PRESS, be professional. Complete your blog post and/or social share in a timely manner. Read your contracts thoroughly and always send a thank you note.

Gaining respect as a blogger and influencer is all about the respect you give your chosen topic/task. Don’t call yourself a blogger if you don’t own a blog. Stop it. But be an amazing influencer, if that’s what you’d rather do.

Are you a blogger or influencer? Comment below.

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