I know this is a weird title for an Outfit of the Day (#OOTD) post but I thought I’d address some stuff as it pertains to fashion and fatness. A couple of months ago I posted the look I wore for the Nashville Symphony Ball. As always, I post my looks on my instagram and wait for the likes and comments to roll in. Usually, my comments thread is pretty positive. But as the popularity grows, I see new followers and new commentary. On this day, when I posted my symphony story, someone made a snide comment about my fat arms.
Initially, I was a bit shocked. Like I said, I hadn’t received negative comments on my photos. That day was a different day. After my initial shock, I thought about it – people are so used to plus-size women covering up. EVEN in this day of plus-size model Tess Holiday, getting national and international modeling jobs, people still feel ‘some kinda way’ about big women being okay with her big-ness. Truthfully, I used to feel the same way . . .
|Wear all the accessories! #ShowYourArms!|
My arms are fat. You know why? Because I’m fat. It took me A LONG TIME to just be able to say that. My confidence has grown every year and I’ve become happier with my body, no matter my size. Plus, I’m not gonna miss out on all the AMAZING clothes because I don’t like a part of my body.
And . . . the comments, they will come because everyone has opinions. For years I had opinions on what plus-size girls should look like or wear. Now, I’m even more open to seeing how women can express their style and confidence through their clothing choices. I thank the internet for exposing women to the beauty of being plus-size. Everyday, my Instagram is filled with girls rocking their arms, legs, stomachs, and whatever . . . with no shame.
|Shirt – Styles Boutique, Shoes/Tights – Torrid, Clutch – Gifted (similar), Necklace – Rocksbox
So, when I saw this amazing peplum top from Styles Boutique in Nashville, I had to purchase it. I thought twice about wearing it, because of my fat arms. But the way my silhouette looked, I couldn’t resist. I mean, my waist is SNATCHED! When the OVERALL look trumps you feeling ‘some kinda way’ about a small part of your body. Girl, just wear it.
And, yes, when you feel amazing about your look, your confidence gives you the best glow ever! People will just comment on how amazing you look and never really care about those fat arms, or weird scar, or whatever makes you frazzled.
Someone will ALWAYS have something to say, especially when you are fat. People don’t like the space that fat takes up. But . . . oh well, that’s their problem. Not mine. Don’t be afraid rock you fat with no shame. Plus, all these fashions, girl don’t miss out!
Shot by Patrick Webster Photography
UPDATED, originally published 7/2/2015