CHAT | Come get your BOYFRIEND! 

I’m loving using my new YouTube channel to share different sides of myself. Also, I’d like to thank you for your comments on my videos. Today’s video is my new CHAT feature. Sometimes, I just want to talk to you, and using the written word is not enough. Let me know if you like it.

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I know I’m cute . . . but I don’t want your guy!

Today’s topic is relationships! Specifically, people attempting to get out of their their relationship … specifically your boyfriend being all up in my DMs and your mom’s DMs, and my friend’s DMs! I’m just tired of guys trying to create side situations with nice single girls. So, let’s talk about it!

So many times, people ask me, “Are you dating?” and the answer is YES, but with some frustration. I know there are great guys out there, but the corny guys are making it REAL bad for y’all. Seriously, I’m not here to be a side-chick. I want a fun, healthy, and amazing relationship with a great guy who doesn’t sneak away, sending janky texts to other women. And, you should want that too. You don’t need a guy treating you like you’re LESS THAN! Girl, you are the full package!

Take a look at my video and tell me what you think? Have you been cheated on? How did it feel? Have you cheated? Let’s talk about!

 

MOTIVATION: Not for Free!

As a creative freelancer, the talk of money is very sensitive. Creative folks are always discussing our need for money, but very few work toward establishing a set scale that will keep the bills paid. Consider your favorite creative person, and please understand, we don’t do this for free! From filmmakers, to writers & bloggers, to style gurus, creative freelancers, like myself, are the MOST underpaid employees in the workforce. (source). Guys, we need to ask for what we are worth and don’t be afraid to stand our ground.

I’ll be the first to say that I don’t ask for what I’m worth. That’s a BIG problem for me. You can reflect on last week’s MOTIVATION post – not asking for enough money is ANOTHER reason why I’m not as successful. Our society makes it difficult to ask for what your worth because we are so used to getting paid less. Even when I had my corporate job, I was always afraid to ask for a raise, when I KNEW I deserved it. However, if I don’t think I’m worth it, how can I make YOU a believer. Stop letting people book two-hour ‘pick my brain’ sessions for the price of a $5 coffee! You are worth more!

As a blogger and personal stylist, the info I provide isn’t necessary for daily living. You can go about your life NOT knowing the name of Beyonce’s latest bag of choice (It’s a custom Louis Vuitton), what to wear for your 20th Class Reunion (click here) or understand why using proper lighting for your selfies is a big deal. But when you do need that info, from a trusted source, you come to me or one of my stylish peers. You expect that I’ll know exactly what to say. I’m your Google. You need the 10 YEARS of info stored in my brain in order to guide you on your stylish way.

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Dress – ASOS, Boots – Torrid, and Bag – Jessica Simpson

Please, stop thinking a creative’s job is easy or we do this JUST because it’s a hobby. Those who are transitioning from hobby to lifestyle need MONEY to do so. Your stylist friend who helps you dress your family for your Christmas photoshoot deserves to be paid. The photographer that has to carry his gear around town in order to get the best photo deserves to be paid. The friend who is ‘helping’ you plan your wedding, deserves to be paid. The intern who is teaching how to use ‘the Instagram’ deserves to be paid. Even your homegirl, who does hair out of her kitchen, but can slang an amazing weave, deserves to be paid. And, if you don’t feel like that individual deserves to be paid, then you don’t deserve the luxury of their skills.

Since I’m about solutions, and you are about to be a better person, I’ll give you FOUR ways to compensate your favorite creative – in addition to giving them money.

  • Don’t Ask for the HOOK-UP! – Ask them their established rate before booking. Stop looking for a hook-up all the time. If the person chooses to give you the hook-up, that’s their choice. And even then, give them a tip (15%-20%).
  • FOLLOW them on Social Media – Most creatives don’t have big budgets for marketing campaigns. Most of the time, we use social media to share our work, new ideas, and sales. We need your follows, likes, and shares! It take 2.7 seconds to click that share/like button and you’ve done a lot more for people you don’t even know.
  • Spread the Word – Now that you’ve worked with your favorite creative, read her blog & it inspired you, or received the amazing photos from your shoot, it’s time to spread the word. Word of Mouth is the BEST way to support your creative friends. Don’t let those photos in your phone go to waste – show your co-workers & church members. Be the PR that we can’t yet afford.
  • Donate to the Cause – Feel weary about giving someone cash? Then ask your independent freelance friend what they need to move their business forward. Ask them if they need a finance session with an accountant. Could she need a new lens for her camera? Or something simple, like ink and paper for her printer. Oh, think outside the box . . . FREE babysitting so she can finish that song or edit that video. Think about it.

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For my fellow creative freelancers – let’s start knowing our worth and charging extra. For the supporters – thanks in advance for adjusting to our new rates. In the end, we just want to share our passions with you and give you amazing services, from a creative standpoint. Support us and your local creative community!

Thanks for reading!

MOTIVATION: I know why I’m NOT successful

I’m not successful and I know why! And you’re not successful either, so let’s talk about it. I’ve been a blogger for NINE years, NINE! You’d think, within two years, I should be riding high on that sweet delicious blog money! I should have all the high-dollar collabs, photos popping, getting sent out to amazing destinations, and not giving the sad face to my skeptical bank account. But, in my new quest to get ONE MILLION FOLLOWERS I realized my behaviors have definitely stopped me from being farther in the game than I should be. And, because I want to help you do better in your endeavors, I thought I’d bring you along for the ride. Here’s the FIVE reasons why I’m not successful:

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MOTIVATION: One Million Followers – The Impossible Dream

I’ve declared that I want one million followers. How is this gonna happen? Why am I making this declaration? I guess we can call this a continuation of last week’s motivation post, “Don’t Be Afraid to be Famous”. This week, I want to encourage you to speak the impossible over your life. 

On Sunday, I was sitting in my rented townhouse, looking at my messy bedroom, while tapping back & forth between social media sites. I watched some of my fave youtubers, read some of my fave blogs, and looked at fashion shows featuring clothes I can’t currently afford and/or fit in. I was shook. It seems like everyone is doing better than me. 

I know that’s not true. I know there’s so many peaks and valleys behind each beautiful photo and exciting video. There’s the fight with social media alogorithms, there’s ‘haters’, there’s self-sabotage, there’s ALOT of fear, and there’s just pure laziness  And the goal seems so out of reach! 

The Beyonce’s, Oprah’s, and pretty bloggers of the world make it look easy, when you KNOW it was hard. Over time,  I realized … we aren’t any different than our fave celebrity or influencer (or lady that works down the hall who got the promotion over you), they just believed the impossible, walked through FEAR, and they worked harder than most. 

So what’s your impossible? What seems so out of reach that you laugh at the thought of having it? I’m not talking about the give me a unicorn and a private island thoughts. I’m talking about, using your skills, interests, and talents, and turning them into something amazing. Who’s number one in your field? You want that top spot? What’s holding you back?

I’m a writer. That’s why I started this blog. I love words. I love telling stories. I love crafting content. Next, I love STYLE! Not just fashion but STYLE! I love to see someone who understands their look and has the confidence to flaunt it. Lastly, I love to motivate people. I truly believe the world is big enough for us to have want we need. You can be in the top ten. You can be an influencer in your field. 

So, I want a million followers. Combined. I have an Instagram, Facebook, Snapchat, TWO twitter accounts, Tumblr, and Youtube. This year, combined, I want to reach ONE MILLION FOLLOWERS. I’m speaking this declaration over my life because I know I have the talent, education, and savvy, to make it happen. No, I may not be the prettiest girl in the room, and I sure ain’t the richest, but I have the tools. 

Guess what, you have the tools too! In the comment section, DECLARE YOUR IMPOSSOBLE. Wanna be the number one sales person in your company? Declare it. Wanna get 1000 views on your video? Declare it? Wanna be the mom who gets the kids to school, ON TIME, each morning? You got it! 

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MOTIVATION: Don’t be afraid to be famous!

I tried to play it off, but y’all I currently have a tweet that is going viral and I AM HYPE! Yes, the tweet below, about Issa Rae‘s hit show, Insecure, is currently at 11K retweets and likes! 

UPDATE: My tweet has been featured on USA TODAY! Y’all!!!! Click Here to read the article. 

I’ve followed Issa Rae since her humble beginnings on YouTube. Now she’s one of the most sought after writers in Hollywood. The fact that she may have chuckled at my tweet, makes me think of how one small thing can change your whole path. Like, some of my favorite social media influencers and Hollywood celebs have re-tweeted my lil ol tweet. I’m low-key excited. Why?

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SHOPPING: Confidence to buy a car

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When I was contacted by Cars.com to do a post about using their website to buy a car, I wanted to make sure I kept it real. I’ve purchased a couple of cars in my lifetime and I’ve made a ton of mistakes. So, I complied a list of steps to help you get the car that you want with the help of Cars.com.

Make a Wish – The photo, above, is me standing next to my dream car, a Chevy Equinox. Well it’s not my DREAM dream car (that’s a Mercedes G-Wagon) but it’s the next car I need to push me forward. I love the Chevrolet brand, I need a crossover vehicle, and I want something that I can drive for a couple years. Make a wish fr what you want, it’s the first step to get you on the road to having the confidence to getting what you want.

Do your Research – After you’ve decided on you next dream vehicle, do your research. Cars.com is a great place to compare car prices on you next vehicle. The good thing about cars.com, is that they can tell you about cars that are right in your neighborhood. Within a 20 mile radius you can compare prices form several dealers. Doing your research gets you prepared for your next step.

Save Your Money – Yup! There’s no way we are gonna get through a car-buying post without talking about saving money. I think that was my biggest mistake in buying my last car. I didn’t put enough money down in order to lower my car payment. Luckily, my job paid me a good wage, so I was able to make my car payments on time. Next time, I def want to put more money down to decrease my loan time, help me with my overall budget, and give me more financial security.

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Y’all, I can’t wait to get this car!

Take your time – I know, I know. You really want you car RIGHT now, and you might even need a car right now. But take your time. Once you’ve used Cars.com to find the car dealership to purchase from, go to the shop with confidence. Take your time, test drive your dream car, ask a ton of questions, and don’t be afraid to WALK AWAY if you don’t feel comfortable with the purchase. Remember, you will be responsible for this car for at least five years, you need to feel confident about your purchase.

Get what you want – Using the Cars.com website, you should feel confident to get what you want. Remember, this is your dream car. This is something you are spending a huge amount of money on. And, you need to feel amazing about your purchase.

So, I hope this helps you with your future car-buying experience. Ladies, be confident when you step into the building. Don’t let anyone pressure you into buying something you can’t afford or don’t want. Use the cars.com website to guide you into your perfect purchase!

#15MinsofFAB: Staying in your lane! 

This week on the #15MinutesofFab Facebook Livestream I’ll be discussing: fashion, blogging, and staying in your lane. I’ve had so many people asking me, “How do you like blogging full-time? How have you found your niche?” 

Have you asked yourself these questions? Are you trying to start a style blog? Let’s talk about it! Leave your comments below and join me live on Facebook and Instagram. 

#15minutesofFAB – Staying in your lane

Every Monday, 6p CST, I jump on Facebook Live (then on Instagram) to discuss life, style, & blogging with my Fab Family! Tune in every week for a little slice of my life and some advice from an old lady in the game. Lol! I’ll answer your questions every week in a friendly chat. Let’s have fun! 

MOTIVATION: Where to start?

When you don’t know where to start, just go to a place you miss so much.” – Unknown

It might sound crazy to start a ‘Motivation’ piece with the topic of confusion, but some of my best motivating moments were born when I was most confused. After quitting my job, this summer has been all about confusion. When I thought I was on the right path, the universe sent me several curveballs. Basically, it ain’t that easy. 

It felt like I almost needed to start again. Then, I was blessed with this new website design, and my passion for blogging and telling my story was reignited. As the quote above suggests, I needed to go to the place I missed so much. For me, it was the blog. Just telling my story and using my words. 

When I started blogging, you didn’t have to have professional photos, know the latest in technology, or fight the machine that is instagram. Interest was organic and people were drawn to the simple story of your life. Whether you told that story through cooking, fashion, making music, or even bird whatching, there was an audience for you. Everyone had a lane.


Often, when I’m asked about starting a blog,  people point out the superficial: the free stuff, the photos, and the attention. Listen, it comes. But don’t let the pursuit of those things distract you from telling your story. There has to be a reason that you want to share your life with the world … and it need to be more than a free ticket to Disney Land. Find your lane, help your tribe. 

So that’s my suggestions for this week. Think about the place you miss so much (literally or figuratively). Why do you miss it? Why did you leave? How can you center yourself enough to share your story and help others? The motivation you need is found in clearing your path! 

Have a FAB week! 

Have you joined the #ShowYourArms Squad? 

The #ShowYourArms squad is rolling DEEP for Summer 2017! Have you kept up worth the hashtag on Instagram? We are almost at 500 tags and that’s amazing. I’ve been overwhelmed by the support from the plus-size community and women in general.

You never know who’s struggling and who’s overcome their body image struggles. That’s why this campaign is not just for Plus-Size women, it’s for all women! So, check out the hashtag on all social media platforms and then, TAG YOUR PHOTOS! I want to see you #ShowYourArms this summer!

Follow me on Instagram to see this week’s new addictions to the #ShowYourArms squad!